Whether the intimidation is internal and has to do with your own thought processes, or external, having to do with the actions/behaviour of others, you can learn to overcome it.
The following tips may offer some solace and serve as a go-to guide on how to keep your sanity and your sense of motivation.
- Stop worrying or caring about what others think— and what they say about you to your face. Here, it’s important to acknowledge your own ego, for you’re likely afraid other people will see your flaws and call you out on them. You simply cannot keep this up, because accumulated worry will drag you down, sap your energy and cloud your decision-making.
- Never give others permission to intimidate you. No one can intimidate you unless you allow it to happen. They may bluster, shout, criticize and complain, even tell you that you’re worthless, but unless you accept this assault, you won’t be intimidated.
- Curtail saying “I’m sorry” for everything. You have nothing to apologize for (unless you do, in which case a heartfelt apology is likely enough to get you past the incident, along with a fervent resolve not to repeat the transgression).
- Remember that you have value – always. This is vitally important for you to keep in mind, for others may not acknowledge your value. As often happens in the case of intimidators, they refuse or fail to recognize your value. You are the one who knows your true value, so hold onto that recognition.
- When you enter a room where you’ll be in the presence of intimidating others, act like you belong there. It may feel like you’re putting on a show, yet standing tall and striding forth with confidence will help you navigate this awkward and potentially embarrassing situation. By standing tall, you’re also helping yourself breathe, which helps quell butterflies and bolsters self-confidence.
- You are always enough. In any circumstance or situation, no matter who you interact with, how long or why, there is nothing missing from you as a human being. You are not deficient or stupid or incompetent, no matter what others who seem intent on ill-will may say.
- Practice being assertive as this skill will go a long way towards giving you the self-confidence to deal with any situation where you feel intimidated.
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