Feeling confident doesn’t always come naturally, but it’s something we can actively work on and improve. Regularly practicing certain rituals and habits — like surrounding ourselves with people who believe in us or celebrating even our smallest of wins — can help us feel more self-assured over time. Here are some practical suggestions:
Think of one thing you’re grateful for
When you start to lose confidence or feel frustrated, take a deep breath and remember gratitude. Write down or think about one thing you are grateful for. This may help to put things into perspective.
Create a “feel-good folder”
Boost your confidence by reviewing your ‘feel-good folder,’ which is filled with cards, letters and posts from people whom you’ve helped. This folder may also have photos and images of activities that bring you joy.
Write down an achievement you’re proud of
When you are low on self-confidence block out a minimum of 30 minutes with no distractions, and write down different achievements, qualifications and moments you are most proud of.
Celebrate a small win you’ve had
A lot of our self-doubts come from us comparing ourselves to others. The comparison is what often drives our anxiety and makes us constantly doubt ourselves. What helps in these moments is focusing on the progress you are making regarding your personal goals and onjectives.
Spend time with people who make you feel good
Spending time with family and friends who believe in you can be a great way to get small doses of positivity and joy when you are down on yourself.
Take a walk outside
Take a walk and connect with nature – observing and absorbing your surroundings.
Give yourself compassion
When feeling down try taking it easy. Don’t do anything too strenuous or challenging. Maybe listen to a motivational podcast or watch a funny movie. Remember you can’t force yourself to snap out of anything. When self-confidence is low, it may be because there is a part of us that is disconnected from our higher selves for a time.
Uplift someone else around you
Encouraging others when they lack confidence and sharing experiences that uplift them will often help with your own confidence levels. As you share those words of encouragement and positive feedback, it also helps you realize those words could be applied to yourself.
Try a positive mirror affirmation
Use positive affirmation statements, such as saying things like, ‘You’re OK’. Add more positive statements over time, and when you struggle with yourself look in the mirror and say the things that lifts you from your negative space.
Keep a “confidence file”
Keep a ‘confidence file’ on your computer. It’s simply a document with lovely testimonials from others, as well as things friends and family have said. It’s handy to have them all in one place. It can remind you of just how incredible, accomplished and loved you are — especially during times when you’re feeling low and lacking confidence.
Think of a time you overcame self-doubt
To boost your self-confidence, recall a time when you overcame your self-doubt and made it across the finish line. For example, when you had a major achievement in your life. This memory can remind you that you are stronger than you give myself credit for.
Simply put be kind to oneself.