Sometimes when life gets stressful it feels like we live on auto pilot. Sometimes we go from day to day, often feeling angry and frustrated and resentful and tired and so disillusioned with our lives. We have so much to do and we are often so busy and yet so bored because our daily lives don’t feature activities or experiences that light us up. Here are the questions to ask yourself to create a more fulfilling and ultimately happier life.

1. What are my core values and am I living in alignment with them? Many of us have no idea what our core values are let alone whether we are in alignment with them.

2. What are my non negotiables in my daily life that support my best mental wellbeing. Many of us have great intentions to do things for ourselves and yet often don’t end up doing them because everyone else comes first.

3. What do I want for myself over the next few years. What does my best future look like and how am I going to get there.

4. When I feel stressed, how can I soothe my nervous system so I can be calmer and less anxious? Many of us don’t even know what a calm baseline feels like so think the heightened state of ‘fight or flight’ are normal.

5. What am I doing when I feel most alive?

6. Where do I get a sense of meaning and purpose in my life. If I don’t have that feeling in my current life, what needs to change to add it in.

7. What is my core tendency (obliger, upholder, rebel or questioner) and how can I work with that tendency to understand myself better.

8. How do I show myself self-compassion and self-love.

9. Who energises me in my life and who drains me, and for those who drain me what boundaries do I need to set to protect my energy so I have more time and mental energy.

10. If my life stays on it’s current trajectory and nothing at all changes, how does that make me feel? If the answer is ‘awful’ or ‘disappointed’ or ‘disgusted’ or ‘frustrated’ then change needs to happen. What is the change? Maybe start with the smallest change you could make to have the biggest outcome.