Even when work fulfills us and aligns with our personal sense of purpose, falling into the traps below can contribute to stress and burnout. Most of us are guilty of letting our busy lives get in the way of being as mindful as we can or should be. Pay close attention to whether your thoughts, feelings and behaviours are amplifying your stress and/or compromising your sense of control over your work-life integration.

The overly adaptable trap

Being adaptable and embracing change can be good for you and your career — that is, until you overextend yourself. This is a common trap for so-called people-pleasers, who are driven by the urge to appeal to others or to fulfill what they perceive to be others’ expectations of them.

Ask yourself, “Is my extreme adaptability coming from a desire to please other people?” If the answer is “yes,” be aware that compliance comes at a cost. Your flexibility may be a superpower in some instances, but it becomes a liability if you sacrifice your own well-being simply to please others.

If you have a habit of saying “yes” to every new request because you like to make others happy, try saying “no” more often (easier said than done, I know). Start with low-stakes projects. Try to set better boundaries to protect your recharge time and be clear with both yourself and your manager about when you are and are not willing to work overtime.

The perfectionist trap

“Perfection is the enemy of progress.” This is a quote often attributed to Winston Churchill. Perfection may well be the enemy of our wellness, too. Setting high standards for ourselves is an important part of success. Problems start to surface, however, when those standards become increasingly unattainable or when we expect too much of ourselves in all parts of our lives. We become doubly trapped when we start to believe that others around us are perfect and that we need to be, too (see the imposter syndrome trap below).

If you find yourself in the perfectionist trap, ask yourself, “How can I get things done without the heavy burden of it having to be perfect?” Try being kind and forgiving to yourself. It’s a natural reaction to be hard on ourselves when we realize that we’re getting in our own way on the path to wellness. Forget the self-blame; it’s only going to make you feel worse.

The imposter syndrome trap

Starting a new role, getting a promotion, or taking on a new project can trigger the all-too-common feelings that accompany imposter syndrome. We put extra pressure on ourselves when we make comparisons to others or when we feel underqualified for our job. When paired with the perfectionist trap, people suffering from imposter syndrome run a substantially higher risk of overworking (see the next trap: over-engagement).

Breaking free from this trap starts with recognizing your feelings of inadequacy and reframing your self-talk. To strengthen yourself in the fight against burnout, make self-compassion — not debilitating self-criticism — a habit.

The over-engagement trap

Even people who love their jobs are at risk of burning out. We pour ourselves into work that makes us feel engaged and happy and slowly begin to sacrifice time spent on things that recharge us, such as time with family, exercise, and almost always, sleep.

To free yourself of this trap, first consider whether you are pushing yourself too hard. Try setting clear boundaries around when you work so you can enjoy the benefits of pursuing a passion outside of work.

The “I can’t do anything about it” trap

Research psychologists have shown that individuals tend to cope with stressors in two different way. “Problem-focused” coping helps us deal with stressors over which we believe we have control. These include the amount of extra work we willingly take on, deadlines we can change or negotiate, and other work-related problems that are “figure-out-able.” When we believe that we have little or no control over a stressor, we typically engage in “emotion-focused” coping. We use this most often when we are over-burdened with work, deadlines, and other pressures that, despite our best attempts, are inflexible or are otherwise out of our hands. People who spend a lot of time in emotion-focused coping (i.e., dealing with our emotions when we believe we can’t control something) face a significantly higher risk of burnout.

If you find yourself stuck in this trap, challenge your belief about which aspects of your reality you do or do not control. Think about the specific things causing you stress and ask yourself, “Is this deadline as rigid as I think it is?” Then, “What steps can I take to negotiate this deadline?” Any steps you take to feel more in control will help you feel less burned out.