Healing from abandonment issues takes time and patience. It’s essential to be gentle with oneself throughout the process. Dealing with abandonment issues can be very challenging but there are several strategies that may assist:

  1. Practice Self-Care- This can include activities such as exercise, meditation, journaling, spending time in nature and pursuing habits/past-times that bring enjoyment and pleasure.
  2. Build a Support Network- building a support network of family, friends or support groups can provide a sense of belonging and reassurance.
  3. Challenge Negative Thoughts- Abandonment issues often involve negative self-beliefs and fears. It’s important to challenge these thoughts and replace them with more positive realistic one’s.
  4. Develop Healthy Boundaries- Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial for people with abandonment issues. Learning to communicate needs, assert personal limits and recognize when relationships may not be healthy or supportive is essential for self-protection and emotional well-being.
  5. Practice Mindfulness- mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing, meditation or grounding exercises can help individuals to stay present in the moment and reduce anxiety related to abandonment fears. Mindfulness can also promote self-compassion and acceptance.
  6. Process Past Trauma- Abandonment issues often stem from past traumatic experiences. Engaging in trauma-focused therapy can help individuals process and heal from past wounds.
  7. Develop Healthy Coping Mechanisms- Finding healthy ways to cope with abandonment triggers is important. This may involve engaging in creative outlets, practising relaxation techniques, seeking support from loved ones, or engaging in activities that promote self-soothing and emotional regulation.
  8. Practice Emotional Resilience- this involves developing the ability to bounce back from setbacks and challenges. This can be achieved through self-reflection, self-compassion and cultivating a positive mindset.
  9. Set Realistic Expectations- Its important to set realistic expectations for oneself and others in relationships. Recognizing that no-one is perfect and that relationships require effort and compromise can help individuals navigate their abandonment fears more effectively.