It can be really challenging when you or someone you care about is stuck. I’ve seen stagnation ruin work, marriages and create depression. And it can be hard to recognize when you’re the one who’s stuck. But if you identify with any of the stuck behaviours below, it’s likely time to change. The key difference between flourishing and being stuck lies in mindset and action. Here are some things you can do to move from stuck to flourishing.
• Reassess your goals. Oftentimes, people are stuck because their goals no longer fit them. Take time to get clear on what you want out of life and what your purpose is. Break goals down into smaller and more manageable steps so they’re not overwhelming.
• Embrace new challenges. Practice going outside your comfort zone and trying new things. They don’t have to be aligned with your goals or serve any purpose other than you doing something difficult and new. Take a class in a foreign language, sign up for the dance contest or volunteer for a cause that inspires you. Make “embrace new challenges” your daily mantra and see how it pushes you into flourishing.
• Work to change your mindset. Start reframing mistakes, setbacks and failures as learning opportunities. Look at obstacles and barriers as a chance to think creatively to find new solutions. If you catch yourself thinking negatively or in a fixed way, ask yourself what you have control over in the situation and find one small thing you can do immediately to create positive change.
• Surround yourself with inspiring and motivating people. Humans are social creatures, and we tend to be like the people we spend the most time around. Find people who not only dream big but take action. Seek out those who make you want to be the best version of yourself and spend as much time as possible with them.
