Certain traits and qualities, like respect and empathy, can help your relationship flourish in the long-term and benefit your mental well-being. When you start thinking about someone as your life partner there may be traits to look for including:
1. They have a solid foundation
This is about having strong physical, emotional, social, financial and purposeful roots. This doesn’t mean they have to be the most popular, rich, fit and successful person but they have to be able to stand on their own in each aspect of life or be actively working on doing so. While these aspects will benefit your partner, they’re also advantageous to you. Being in a relationship with someone who takes responsibility for their own wellness means you won’t have to fill the gaps of their self-worth, confidence and security.
2. They can communicate effectively
While your partner needs to be able to express themselves, it’s equally important that they can listen to your needs and concerns. Sharing feelings and needs clearly and straightforwardly aids in “improving feelings of intimacy and closeness. Partners who are good at communication make our lives easier as there’s no guesswork and confusion in trying to understand them and their needs.
3. They share your values
No couple is 100% going to agree on everything all the time but having similar beliefs and attitudes towards the key ‘life’ pillars is important. For instance, how to raise the children you may decide to have. One partner can influence the other in some aspects but it helps when you’re starting off with your values identified and, in the best of circumstances, overlapping significantly.
4. They demonstrate respect
It’s also important your partner demonstrates respect for your personal boundaries. Each partner should agree to not cross those boundaries, regardless of disappointment, hurt feelings or in times of anger
5. They show empathy
Empathy is the ability to recognize and understand another person’s emotions and needs and is important to relationship success and is linked to relationship satisfaction.
6. They recognize and appreciate their imperfections
Individuals who can see their own flaws with grace and without self-deprecation, shame, blame or avoidance are much more likely to provide the same safe space for you to be imperfect and be less likely to deflect blame and responsibility.
7. They’re open to influence
Being with someone willing to accept your needs and consider your opinions is vital. In addition to boosting your feelings of self-worth and self-respect, it also leads to more satisfaction and happiness as you feel essential to them.
8. They give affection in the way you need
We all like to show and receive affection in different ways: some are very touchy-feely, while others demonstrate love through practical actions.
9. They listen and are open during arguments
If your partner doesn’t actively listen during disagreements and simply waits for their next opportunity to give their opinion, it does not give space to problem-solving. Furthermore, feeling like your point of view isn’t being appreciated can create feelings of frustration, resentment, disrespect and that you’re not being seen.
