Not everyone feels happy and joyful during Christmas and the holidays. It can be a stressful, challenging, lonely, isolating or depressing time for some. Some reasons for this might include:

  • Family tension/conflict
  • Relationship issues
  • Financial costs and money worries
  • Numerous social, family and work events
  • High or unrealistic expectations
  • Ideals about the ‘perfect’ Christmas or pressure to enjoy every moment of it
  • Not having family or friends around
  • Pressure to celebrate
  • Bereavement
  • Separation and divorce
  • Time pressures
  • Long work hours in the lead up to Christmas
  • Health issues

Coping tips –

  • Plan ways to reduce spending, such as low- cost gifts or ways to have fun
  • Set budgets
  • Set realistic expectations
  • Try not to compare your Christmas experience with that of others, especially on social media
  • Consider a break from social media
  • Set boundaries and consider saying no, especially to things you are dreading doing
  • Do what’s right for you
  • Stay in touch with loved ones if you can
  • Be patient and kind to yourself, and prioritise your needs
  • Look after yourself – eat well, exercise, drink water, sleep well, get fresh air, limit alcohol, drugs and caffeine, get out into nature and the sunshine, take time out for yourself
  • Plan some early nights
  • Do more of the things you enjoy
  • Let people know if you are struggling
  • Remember that you don’t have to force yourself to be happy just because it’s Christmas
  • Give yourself rewards
  • Use relaxation strategies and breathing techniques
  • Remember Christmas isn’t forever, it’s just one day
  • Try to plan something to look forward to after Christmas
  • Take time to feel and express your feelings
  • Reach out to others/supports/EAP Assist